- On June 3, 2015
We can’t describe how happy we are every time someone who was waiting and praying for their love life, at long last starts dating. It is an exciting time where there is a transition from being alone to finally having someone. All of a sudden there are new possibilities, you start planning your wedding in your head, and you wake up every morning excited, and for some reason the birds seem to sing just a little louder and sound more beautiful now.
But at the same time that we are happy when a person starts dating someone who could potentially be right for them; we also have a certain amount of trepidation. We know that when people get too excited they seem to throw all care to the wind, and then things start to go a little wrong.
We always advice people who just started dating to keep their feet firmly on the ground, and although they should enjoy this time of their life, they should really check if this is the person they would like to spend the rest of their life together with.
What often happens, is that all the emphasis goes into the kissing and hugging, and everything else is forgotten. This leads to two common problematic outcomes:
1. Rushing to get married: If the newly formed couple live by the standards of the Word of God, they don’t want to have sex before marriage. But when they are finding it difficult to “keep it together”, they just rush into marriage so they can get it over and done with. Because the driving force behind getting married was sleeping together, the couple will be unprepared to deal with the real challenges that come with marriage.
2. Rushing into bed: Every time we see a couple who are getting to know each other just jump into bed, it’s all downhill from there. They shared something that is supposed to be beautiful before they really knew each other, and now the cart has been put before the horse. Everything becomes awkward after that because they both know they jumped the gun.
The problem of not using the dating period for what it’s really for (finding out if this is the person you should commit your life to) has been the real chink in most people’s armour.
A lifetime of happiness in your future marriage depends on the relatively short period you will date that person for. Don’t rush it or mess it up.