- On April 16, 2014
Surely no one will disagree that men and women are different. In fact, sometimes we are worlds apart in the way we think about things and the way we express ourselves. The fact that we are different is surely something that God gave it a lot of thought before He created us. He knew there would be great benefits to these differences in a relationship. But why is it that if God made us so different, do we keep trying to make the opposite sex always more like us.
We hear people complaining everywhere that men should be as sensitive as women, women should be more focused on pragmatic solutions like men usually are. But the truth is that in all these stereotypical examples; we are all missing the point. Surely, we will never be able to change the opposite sex and how they are, because we were divinely designed differently.
Imagine if in a relationship you had two people who behaved exactly the same way with the exact same qualities and flaws. Everything would certainly be out of balance. Can you ever imagine being married to someone who is exactly like you? Just the thought of it makes me shudder… One of me is enough – thank you very much.
The key is not in pointing out the other person is different, or even trying to change the opposite sex. Instead, that difference of behaviour, personality, qualities and flaws should be embraced. Your partner will always have qualities that you lack and that will no doubt make you and your children all the better for it. Look at your partner and see all the qualities you could take from him/her, and you might just learn a thing or two.
A man trying to change a woman to be more like him, or vice versa; is like saying that God got it wrong with his creation.