- On May 29, 2015
I CAME ACROSS A RECENT STORY SENT TO ME BY A FRIEND, OF A YOUNG WOMAN CALLED RACHEL GOW WHO KILLED HERSELF BECAUSE SHE WAS ABOUT TO TURN 30 AND WASN’T YET MARRIED NOR HAD CHILDREN.
You can read her story here
We have to say that this is a very sad story, not only because no one should take their own lives, but especially when they are that young.
From what came out on the media regarding her relationship and general happiness, we can learn the following lessons.
The power of relationships: Love life is such an important part of our life, that when things are going well it can completely empower each individual involved in that relationship. When it’s going wrong however, it can leave a person feeling emotionally and mentally unbalanced. It’s not uncommon to hear of people who not only attempt to take their own lives, but also take drastic negative measures because they don’t know how to cope with that pain.
Inner stability: In Rachel’s case, it came to the fore that she was going through some problems recovering from her mother’s recent passing, but that she also had a lot of personal insecurities and other issues.
Here’s the important lesson. Most people think that if they find a really nice guy or girl who will become their girlfriend/boyfriend, all their personal issues and troubles will magically disappear. In reality, what actually happens is that it’s only a matter of time until all those things you struggled with prior to that relationship and never really dealt with, will all surface sooner or later. And when they do, it will drive your relationship apart and you will feel even worse than before.
We are not being negative here, but just trying to point out the obvious. Whoever is in a relationship with you, will have to leave not only with your nice appearance, but also with all the insecurities and troubles that are often hidden away in the beginning of the relationship so as not to scare the other person off.
If you feel that there are some negative feelings or insecurities within you, let go of the idea that someone will come and save you and make it all go away. This will happen indeed but not because the perfect match will appear. Instead, this is something that God has to do, since He is the only one who has access to these parts of your life and also the power to do a major detox in your inner being.
If you are already in a relationship and understand that you have negative issues that you have never dealt with, then face them and deal with them. This is the only way you can ensure that your relationship stands a good chance of not only surviving, but also thriving.
Join us at the Love Therapy over the next few weeks where we will be doing a Love Detox.