- On May 13, 2015
In a recent article by Bishop Renato Cardoso – What principles and values do you live by? (http://www.renatocardoso.com/en/what-principles-and-values-do-you-live-by/), he explains that even those who say they have no standards, by saying that they are inadvertently saying they have. This is very true in relationships also.
Even before you engage in a relationship with someone, the selection process of finding a suitable partner is always based on principles and values. Depending on the values you live by and what you stand for, this will lead you to usually choose someone who will look at life from a similar vantage point.
When you compromise things like faith, character, goals, etc; that relationship doesn’t stand a very good chance of surviving. It will probably get off to not a very good start, and even a worse conclusion.
Choosing the right person should be a careful selection process where you make sure the potential suitor holds the same values you do. If this doesn’t happen, you are undermining your chances of being happy.
There are many things that we compromise in a relationship because we understand that nobody is perfect. But when it comes to your fundamental values – which is what determines your character-, this is something you should defend.
But if the person who shares a life with you, abides by the same faith and principles, the rest are just details that sooner or later will fall into place.
Don’t compromise your character and integrity for anyone.