- On January 5, 2016
So, I was reading a great book recently and came across a very interesting idea that made me really think how this also applies to relationships. The idea is that basically you cannot sell something you haven’t bought first. Interesting; right. What this means is that if you are a salesman, you will have to buy stock before you buy it. And if you are going for a job interview you will need to believe in yourself before you can make your future boss believe in your abilities. If you stop for a moment to apply this same principle to your love life, you will see how this makes perfect sense.
As someone who works with people wanting to better their relationships or even starting new successful ones, one of the questions I get asked the most is: How do I get someone that I really like, to notice me? (I believe you can already see how the principle we were talking about fits perfectly into this).
The truth is that it’s very difficult to get someone to notice or even want to get to know you better, if you don’t think you would be a great “catch”. That’s right. When you start seeing yourself as someone who has a lot to offer, and you truly believe this, than it will be a lot easier for people to see this in you. Our demeanor always transpires how we see ourselves and the potential we think we have.
We can sometimes say all the right things, but with the complete opposite body language. You can say that you are confident and outgoing all you want, but if this is not really the case, you will actually be showing something different about yourself. And the only way to solve this problem is to invest your time and effort in bettering yourself as a person.
Getting married or starting a long-term relationship is a little bit like buying a house with a 25-year mortgage. It’s a huge commitment, so there is no chance of going ahead unless it’s absolutely the right house. The high monthly payments don’t seem so bad when you know how good it feels to go to bed at night in a home that is yours. It feels great just saying “I’M A HOME OWNER”.
Relationships need investing in and they can be hard work, but if you know you are investing this time and effort for the right person, it makes it all worth while.
So if you want someone to see how great a guy/girl you are, you better believe that yourself.