- On May 29, 2015
IN A RECENT VISIT TO A FRIEND WHO HAD A BRIEF STINT IN HOSPITAL, I SAW SOMETHING THAT I IMMEDIATELY ENVISIONED IN MY OWN MARRIAGE.
On a hospital bed next to where I was standing there was an elderly lady who was recovering from a minor surgery and she seemed quite lively and happy. Probably the surgery had been successful and she was just looking forward to going home. This lady must have been around 70 years old.
Sitting directly opposite her was her husband who was roughly the same age. They both seemed generally healthy (even though she was in hospital) and still very much happy with each other. The gentleman was tucking his wife in and making sure she was comfortable, and making sure she had enough to eat and drink. They were talking about things in general and looked really happy to be with each other.
I constantly hear people complaining how marriage is a dead end and how dull and boring it must be to see the same person every day for the rest of your life. I really don’t understand this analogy at all… What could be better than seeing the person who is most special to you every single day, look after that person, enjoying the good and the bad moments together, and of course; if you give the best to that person, you will receive the best back also.
From my own experience, after 14 years of being married to the same person (of course), time has in no way dampened our relationship or made it stale or boring. On the opposite, now that we have gotten through the process of adapting to each other and understand each other very well, we can truly enjoy each other’s company better than ever before.
In fact, for those who say it’s boring to be with the same person, I feel sorry for them. Here’s why: every time that they are really going to start enjoying that relationship because they now know that person quite well, they quit and have to start that process all over again. All the arguments, disagreements and petty fights become an all too familiar reality all over again.
I am in no rush to getting old, but I look forward to be like that gentleman I saw the other day. Or who knows, maybe it will be the other way around