- On May 28, 2015
If there could be only 1 thing that is attributed to happiness between couples, then hands down the answer would have to be THE WILLINGNESS TO SACRIFICE FOR ONE ANOTHER. You will understand this really well with the following example:
On average, the time when couples less argue is when they are in the beginning of the dating period. Now; have you ever asked yourself the question: Why? How on earth do 2 people who hardly know each other at all would almost ever argue? Surely it should be at the beginning where all the arguments should be happening, and yet it is always the opposite. The more the couple seems to know each other the more they seem to argue. Here’s why:
When you start dating someone, all you want to do is to impress that person no matter what. So if they say jump, you say how high! Right? Actually, most things the person asks of you, you will always go the extra mile with a smile on your face. This is because all you want is to win that person over and impress him/her. That relationship is not about you, it is about making that person happy in the hope that they will like you. And actually, as long as the mentality of the relationship remains in this way, there will be little chance of arguments.
Now step back a little bit and ask yourself if you are currently treating your relationship that way. Are you trying to make that person happy or do you want them to make yourself happy? Are you giving or taking? Is it about you or about the person you love?
Perhaps the reason why things haven’t been great is because you stopped giving and sacrificing for the person you love. And it is guaranteed that the moment you start doing this again, not only will the arguments stop, but that feeling you had when you were dating will flood right back again.
The secret is to sacrifice and give continuously to the person you love. Even more than when you were two young bucks dating…