- On May 28, 2015
Doing some research recently I came across something that scared me a little bit. It is estimated that due to jobs, kids, TV, the Internet, hobbies, and home and family responsibilities, the average married couple spends just four minutes a day alone together. How scary is this? No wonder over 40% of marriages now end up in divorce in the UK with the numbers in the US reaching sometimes up to 50%.
The question here today is: When we spend time together with the person we love, are we really alone with them or do we take a third party in with us? Whether it is a smartphone, tablet, cable TV, all these things prevent us from really being present when our significant other is there with us.
The problem has become so critical that if you took away Internet access from some homes, many couples wouldn’t have anything to talk about.
Now listen; we are not suggesting any hippie alternative to living where you cut yourself off from the whole world. After all, technology plays an important role in our lives today. Proof of this is that you are reading this message right now J. But we have to be able to put the brakes on all external distractions when we are really meant to be together with the person we love.
A simple idea is to agree with your partner to have some ground rules of when the kids go to bed and all electronics are switched off. If this doesn’t happen, when we least expect we could have social media creeping into our bed with us and drive a wedge between both of you that will be really difficult to fix later.
Forcing yourself to do this will bring both of you closer together.
Don’t be married for just 4 minutes a day.