- On May 28, 2015
Men and women both have their hang-ups, but usually different things make them insecure. Today I will be speaking about what makes men insecure, and I will let my wife Helena Marques talk about the women tomorrow.
Although some men are sometimes insecure about a few things to do with their appearance, this is not usually something that makes them lose any sleep at night. In fact, we seem to have pretty think skin when it comes to our appearance. Our friends sometimes criticise our baldness, a growing belly, or even our height (or the lack of it), and we will still laugh this off and let our friends have a bit of their own medicine and take this all as harmless fun.
However, there are things that do tend to make men feel inadequate. For us it’s a big deal how much money we make, the success of our career, and we tend to compare our quality of life with that of our peers. Sometimes when getting to know someone of the opposite sex for a potential relationship, unless a man is very content with his business or career, he does feel like he may not be good enough.
Perhaps this comes from the idea that we are meant to provide for the opposite sex and for our household (even though today women are very independent and may be able to do this for themselves). And so, what we lack in worrying for our appearance, we certainly make up for it in distressing over our personal success.
We all know that a man is not measured by his success, but by his character and other similar attributes. Even though we always demand from ourselves to do better and achieve more.
Of course demanding from yourself that you improve your career prospects, and that you keep achieving, can indeed be a healthy thing. Just don’t let this be something that controls you and puts you down.
So if you are unhappy about where you are in life and want to do something about it rather than just letting that control how you feel about yourself; here are a few tips:
- Work out an action plan to climb your ladder of success
- Be ready to work and maybe study hard
- Keep your eye on your long-term goal. Success doesn’t often happen overnight