- On June 3, 2015
Before we proceed with this post, let’s look at what the urban dictionary says a Casanova is:
Casanova – A smooth-talking charmer who has mastered the art of finding, meeting, attracting and seducing beautiful women into the bedroom. Once he accomplishes his goal, he leaves the woman in fear of having a relationship and proceeds to find his next conquest.
There are many men all over the world, who have now made it a point in their life, to target women who are insecure, disappointed in love, or that are just easily swayed by comments of flattery. These men prey on women to boost their own egos and to just add to their tally of female conquests.
The problem is that as this happens repeatedly, women start thinking that all men are the same and that they are only out to get one thing.
But just like these men with no integrity have learnt to take advantage of certain women, it’s important for women also to spot these kind of men and their behavior and tricks.
Here are a few pointers:
If it sounds too good to be true; it probably is: If he is saying a world of nice things to hear, and he doesn’t even know you yet, then something is up. If he is really serious, he will tread carefully so as not to get involved too quickly before he finds out who you are. It is better that the guy is taking his time, than him wanting to speed things along at the speed of sound.
Closed for business until marriage: If he says he wants to “Share his love with you physically”, so that he can commit to you through marriage, then something is wrong. That part of the relationship is so special that it should wait until marriage. Actually if he really wants to prove his love for you, he can marry you. What better way to prove his love than to marrying you?
Take your time: If you have been single for a while and this guy is telling you everything you want to hear, don’t rush into anything. Don’t forget, that you have the right to test who he really is. Don’t be afraid to lose him because you are not jumping into bed with him. If he is the person of God for you, then things will happen as they should at a pace that is right.
Beware of physiological games: Some of these men are great at making women feel guilty if they do not give in to their advances. Remember that you are not obligated to do anything that you don’t want to do. Those who love respect other people’s boundaries. If he makes you feel uncomfortable or pressured, end things immediately.
The important thing to remember is that no matter how sleazy these men are, it is still completely your responsibility whether you fall into their trap or not. Don’t blame them for your slip ups. They may be void of integrity, but it’s easy to blame them for what is ultimately your choice.
Also, remember that not every man is a Casanova. There are man of integrity and character out there who are looking for a like-minded woman to marry. But of course, you have to work hard to find these ones. Remember that diamonds are not just found in any street corner…