- On July 5, 2016
Ever heard of a couple fighting over a shoe? Well, this happened to Luke and Daiane. Love Talk caught up with them recently. Here’s their story:
Daiane: I was super excited about getting married. I knew it would take some adjusting once I started living with Luke following our wedding, but love conquers all; right. Well, as it turned out, love did conquer all, but not without its hiccups.
Luke: Daiane liked our home very well organised and everything in its place. I had a much more laid back and relaxed approached about this. After all, it is our living space. But when she saw that sometimes my things wouldn’t necessarily be where she thought they should be, this would cause a little friction.
There was once one of my shoes was in the living room, and this became a reason for us to have a fight about it. Well, let’s not call it a fight; more like a heated disagreement.
Daiane: I didn’t really see anything getting better when I got annoyed about this issue. Actually, come to think of it now, it really looks silly that this was a reason for us to disagree and put us in a bad mood.
A few years ago Luke and I took part of a Love Talk seminar and it made us see things quite differently. It’s like a light finally came on and we saw that this problem that was getting bigger had a really simple solution.
Luke: I realised that I could do a lot more to help Daiane notice that I cared about how she like our home to be. So I paid more attention to how I organised my things, and this made a difference.
Daiane: On the other hand, if he did forget a shoe somewhere other than where it should be, I didn’t let this become an issue. I just put it away and moved on.
We finally learned that there are other things that are more important that we should really be investing our time and effort in. Should we really be fighting over a shoe? Absolutely not.
It’s interesting how some problems sometimes really have simple solutions but holding on to our last bit of pride seems more important. Who cares if you dried the dishes on the day he should have done it? Who cares if the toilet seat was up? As time goes by these things are adjusted. Just don’t let something that is not a problem; become a problem.
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